Wednesday 6 February 2013


Maybe the key to surviving this is to focus on the good, no matter how much it hurts. By seeing the good, the blue sky and not the clouds obscuring it, the pain may ease. Focussing on the silver linings brings a richness that may not be achieved by only seeing the grey.

I have friends who challenge me to do this. To focus on the good even if it hurts, in order to grow past the pain and into something better than I was.

Without them, I don't think I would be here. I don't think I would be able to write, to breath or laugh. I would be stuck in the morass of infidelity, blended families and heartache. I can still see it, but I am not trapped by it.

I hope you have friends like mine. If you don't I will try and be that friend. The one that prods you and pokes you out of your comfortable misery.


  1. bless you
    I truly believe the key to surviving this is to take one day at a time
    good on you for being positive :)

  2. Someone once told me, "fake it 'til you make it" - and it works! (Although sometimes it's really hard ... I'll admit that.) There are so many good things that surround us and happen every day. They can be hard to see but they're definitely there. It's worth a shot.

  3. I am working on recovery from major depression and focusing on the good things in life is great. Lately I have been trying to let myself feel the pain. Not in a wallowing in it kind of way but in a horrible things happened and its only normal. Its helped me to get out of bed more than once. Not fighting it has helped me to let it go. I am sorry you are having to deal with this. I can only imagine what you are going through. But you are a fantastic person. And I have enjoyed reading your blog for a while now.

    PS Don't tell yourself others have it worse so you shouldn't feel bad. Its like saying others have it better so you shouldn't feel happy.


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