Maybe the key to surviving this is to focus on the good, no matter how much it hurts. By seeing the good, the blue sky and not the clouds obscuring it, the pain may ease. Focussing on the silver linings brings a richness that may not be achieved by only seeing the grey.
I have friends who challenge me to do this. To focus on the good even if it hurts, in order to grow past the pain and into something better than I was.
Without them, I don't think I would be here. I don't think I would be able to write, to breath or laugh. I would be stuck in the morass of infidelity, blended families and heartache. I can still see it, but I am not trapped by it.
I hope you have friends like mine. If you don't I will try and be that friend. The one that prods you and pokes you out of your comfortable misery.