When I was pregnant and hadn't found out that Monkey was boy, I hoped and prayed he wouldn't be a girl. I was worried, even then, about how media and society has created this norm of unattainable perfection. (Don't get me started on the sensualisation of children...) I know how hard it is to page through magazines and look at the fashion layout and see NOTHING that would suit me... Or anyone who eats a healthy meal once or twice a week.
Now I am aware of how it also affects boys. They see perfection everywhere. Movies, videos, magazines, billboards etc. How can we protect them from feeling the same need to look like Mark Wahlberg in the Jockey Ad (yes I am that old) or thinking a girl isn't beautiful because she doesn't look like the latest It-Girl?
Does my aim of getting smaller affect the way he views himself and others? I have made an effort of telling him (when he asks) that I am trying to get healthier and be able to run fast like Daddy... I don't want him to think that I am doing it to be happier - I will never be a size 4 but I don't want him thinking that losing weight makes you happy. I don't want him thinking that for his friends, boy or girl...
What messages are we passing on to our kids? How do we make it positive?